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Friday, September 02, 2016

Cut “Shame On You” From Your Parenting Vocabulary

Learn To Admonish Your Child In A Healthy Way

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“Shame on you!” Those were very common words of parents and others in authority when I grew up. I remember hearing them regularly. I don’t mean to dishonor those who said them—I know what most of them intended to communicate. But it wasn’t helpful—or healthy—no matter how well-intentioned.

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Parents, grandparents, or any authority figure saying, “Shame on you,” to a child is in response to some unacceptable behavior of the child. Other common versions are, “Bad boy! Bad girl!” Or, “You should be ashamed of yourself!”

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Wednesday, August 31, 2016

Answers To 3 Common Questions Of Young Parents

Too Many Play Dates, Table Manners, And Sleep Overs

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By Gail Andersen

Since I’ve been on Periscope (@gail_andersen) doing short scopes for moms (Mentoring Moments for Moms), I’ve gotten some great questions from those who are jumping on to the scopes.

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Because they are issues that concern many parents, I wanted to share a few in case there are others who would benefit from hearing them.

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Friday, August 26, 2016

2 Guiding Principles For Great Dates And Family Times

And Spending Money Isn't One Of Them!

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In my ebook, 7 Ways To Supercharge Your Family This Week, and in my personal coaching, I emphasize a few weekly events for families. These are the things that have produced in our family the relational gold we are most thankful for.

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Weekly habits such as meal time, couch time, family time, special time, date time.

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Wednesday, August 17, 2016

Creating a Loving, Nurturing Home Without Becoming Child-Centered

How To Create A Family Focused On The Benefit Of Everyone

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In 1979, a proclamation was signed to declare that year as the International Year of the Child. The motivation was to draw attention to the problems that affected children around the world. While this motivation is very admirable, there has been a swing since then to focus on the needs of the child above the needs of the family as a whole. This has created more families that are child-centered, which is not necessarily a good thing.

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At that time, I was at Iowa State University studying Child Development. I loved children, and had focused so much during my formative years on caring for and teaching siblings, neighbors, and other children at child care centers. So why would I not agree with centering so much attention on children as a whole?

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Wednesday, July 27, 2016

Homeschooling With Toddlers In The Household

Preserving Schedule And Sanity In Your Home School

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By Gail Andersen

Since we had five children that were homeschooled—and very close in age—we had many a year when toddlers were part of our homeschool experience. Typically, toddlers are active, demanding, and have a short attention span.

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But many families have homeschooled older children while two, three, or four children play at Mom’s feet. It can be done!

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Friday, July 22, 2016

You Can Have The Family You Want—But You Can’t Have It All

Know What You Want And What The Trade Off Will Be

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This post title may bug you a bit, and you may not be aware why. It’s probably due to a prevailing assumption in our culture—and I believe one of the most damaging mindsets for building great families today. It is the premise that you can have it all.

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We have convinced ourselves that there is always a solution to getting more in our schedule or to have everything we want.

But there isn’t. And you can’t.

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Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Questions Regarding Kids’ Playdates, Mealtimes, And Overnights

Prioritizing Your Family Values And Schedule

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By Gail Andersen

Since I’ve been on Periscope doing short scopes for moms, Mentoring Moments for Moms, I’ve gotten some great questions from those who are jumping on to the scopes. Because they are issues that concern many moms, I wanted to share a few in case there are others who would benefit from hearing them.

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Wednesday, July 13, 2016

How To Stay On Target With Parenting

5 Tips For Making Course Corrections When Necessary

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By Gail Andersen

There were many times in raising our children that I felt I wasn’t doing the best job. Mistakes happen, children make wrong decisions, I didn’t respond in a way I knew I should have, etc.

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Even with homeschooling my children, there were many times I felt I was not doing a good enough job.

Such is the life of a mom—too often feeling we are not totally equipped to be the perfect example of motherhood.

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Wednesday, July 06, 2016

Training Your Preschooler to Obey Right Away

Setting Up Your Child For A Long, Good Life

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By Gail Andersen

Imagine playing ball in the front yard with your son. The ball rolls into the street. Your son begins to chase after it, unaware of an oncoming car. You call to your son to stop. Immediately, he stops dead in his tracks and turns back to look at you. At this point, the time you’ve taken to train him to obey you right away is worth it all.

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Safety, of course, is a main reason why we teach our children to obey us right away. When they are in danger, we want to be sure they listen to our voice and heed the instruction.

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Monday, July 04, 2016

How To Prepare Your Kids For Life Through Everyday Living

Life Skills Are Best Learned At Home

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When Gail and I ventured into educating our kids at home, we were mainly focused on teaching the normal curriculum common in most schools. It wasn’t long, however, before our perspective broadened dramatically.

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We soon realized that their education wasn’t just the in-seat schoolwork for a few hours a day. All of life for us as homeschoolers became school. Every situation was a teaching opportunity.

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